I like going through the websites that talk about women’s health issues, but nobody addresses Male Infertility and rarely anybody discusses about Azoospermia, a hormonal imbalance in men that leads to reduced production of semen.

But don’t you feel that male infertility is equally torturing subject for a women to deal with?

Any male problem is directly connected to the women. We live in a society where everyone asks a woman about the “Good news”. Men never need to answer such questions. And it is annoying when you can neither say the actual problem nor you can completely hide it. There are so less discussions about male fertility issues, and treatments for them. Constructive discussions, information sharing and Counseling might give hope to a lot many women who are dealing with this pressure and can help their husbands to cope with their disorder. It is highly stressful for infertile couples to seek some knowledge and hope especially even discussing this is a social stigma.

The best way to help couples having fertility problems is helping them to understand the actual problem. Most doctors don’t provide proper, detailed information like what is the reason behind infertility in men, or how long a treatment would take, and if treatment has any success rate. I have read such blogs where people have spend hell lot of money behind all treatments yet they are left with failures.

If a couple has a tentative idea that a treatment might take 2-3 years or if they know that the success rate is really low, they can opt for other options like adoption or donor sperm etc. Doctors are way too professional, they would just write down the prescription and they feel their job is done. They do not understand the stress a couple has to deal with.

For couples, who want to opt for adoption, there is lot of family and social pressure of having “one’s own biological child”; which puts even more burden on the couple to conceive through natural means or through medical fertility treatments. Is there anything wrong in giving a home, love and upbringing to an underprivileged kid as one’s own child to avoid the stress of fertility issues and conception?

Secondly, it is also important to bring awareness among such couples about best doctors and IVF clinics in the city. We can always ask our friends or neighbor about a good physician, but nobody would dare to ask about fertility clinics because of stigma it holds. Azoospermia is quite rare, but I don’t believe it could be this rare, that nobody has ever heard about it or dealt with it. In our society, we refrain to discuss such topics even with our families. Families are supposed to provide moral and emotional support, and not judge, blame and sympathize.

I am living in Delhi. There are many hospitals in Delhi offering fertility and IVF treatment, but you really can’t trust them. It has become a business to them. Choosing a right doctor and a right Fertility clinic involves a lot of work and research. I feel it is high time that taboo about male infertility should be removed from the society, families.

People around us have kind of started accepting women with fertility issues, but men are still suffering, all alone, they are scared to become a joke in the society. It is a time to understand that a man if has fertility issues or faulty sperms doesn’t become any less of a “man”. He deserves equal respect, acceptance and love from his family and society. It is his character, personality and actions that define him as a man and not his sperm producing ability.

Trust me; people want to hear more positive things and want to gain more acceptance for their situation, when dealing with such bad phase.

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